The thing that gets odd is when I want to refer to you back before you were married. It's like the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy bit about what the grammar for referring to the Restaurant at the End of the Universe is. People who change their first name/handle present this dilemma, too. (Even trickier, for me, is figuring out the grammar of referring to someone I knew back before they changed their gender-of-presentation, particularly when I'm talking *to* someone who only knew them before the switch and hasn't had contact in eons.)